I’m sure you’ve tried to use your will power many times to stop smoking. It seems counter-intuitive to command yourself to do so. But if you will pay attention to advertisers, you’ll see the validity of this statement.

Pepsi doesn’t gently cajole you into choosing their brand of refreshment by lightly suggesting, “Perhaps Pepsi would be a good idea if you’re thirsty.” No, they command you to “Drink Pepsi.” Burger King doesn’t offer you a hamburger that, “Could be created the way you want it if you choose to do so.” No, they command you to “Have it your way.” And in the most blatant example of all, when you watch a Sprite commercial, you are commanded to “Obey your thirst.”

When we watch television, we relax and are put into a hypnotic trance by the advertisers. Have you noticed how difficult it can be to tear your eyes away from the screen?

Words are commands. Hear them often enough and we obey. How can we use this to stop smoking? Follow these steps (notice the command in the word, “Follow”):

1. Close your eyes and get comfortable. Take a few slow, deep breaths. With each breath, notice yourself going deeper and deeper into a state of relaxation. Relax your mind, relax your body, relax, relax, relax. All sounds which you may hear will have only a calming, soothing, effect.

2. Repeat over and over and over any or all of these commands:

· All my old urges are melting away and being replaced by strong feelings of success.
· All that remains are distant memories of having smoked. I am free and in control.
· I will never again reach for anything to smoke without thinking. I will never unconsciously smoke again.
· I feel the exhilaration as I toss away my cigarettes without any need or desire at all.
· I have lost interest in smoking.
· I sleep easily, naturally and comfortably without a last cigarette.
· I feel very good in body, mind and spirit because I no longer smoke.
· I am free of nicotine.
· I feel strong. My heart and lungs are clear and strong. With each breath, I inhale more energy and health.
· I don’t gain weight because I have control over everything that I put in my mouth.
· I am free.

Here are some ways to add power to these commands:

1. Record the commands for replay while you are in a relaxed state or have someone else record them for you or have someone read them aloud while you relax.
2. Write down commands of your choice and place them where you’ll see them at home and at work.
3. Tell several friends that you are quitting smoking and tell them to regularly remind you of your pledge. Choose friends who you know will command you to keep your word.

Commanding yourself to quit while in a relaxed state will ensure you stop smoking. And that’s today’s self hypnosis secret.

Author Bio

My name is Larry Barkan. I’ve been a training and development consultant since 1984 teaching leadership and management to corporate executives. I’ve been a hypnotherapist since 1997.

My fascination with hypnosis began when I attended a 3-hour lecture on a Sunday evening at a YMCA. There were about 100 people in attendance. The speaker did a relaxation exercise and concluded with the suggestion that “You will be amazed by how well this week goes for you.” I forgot the suggestion until Wednesday of that week when I caught myself marveling at how well the week had gone. Projects that I had been struggling to complete were finished easily. People who had been difficult had suddenly turned cooperative. I was hooked.

I have used hypnosis to help people stop smoking, lose weight and relax. I currently use it in my training classes to help participants overcome obstacles to effective performance.

http://www.selfhypnosissecrets.org

Self hypnosis is simple. You’ve already done it many, many times.

Here’s a story I heard recently of a woman who self hypnotized herself into being anxious. I’ll call her Melissa. While your anxiety may not be the same as Melissa’s, perhaps you’ll see some of yourself in her.

The college Melissa attended held a “best dressed” competition. Melissa won when she was a freshman and was now in competition with the sophomores, juniors and senior girls. She had to pose on stage and answer a few questions. As she was leaving the stage, she tripped and fell. Everyone in the audience stood up to see if she was hurt. Melissa was humiliated and ever since then has been afraid of being in front of an audience.

Now think about this for just a moment. What actually happened in reality is that Melissa fell down the stairs and the audience stood up to see if she was hurt. That’s all that happened.

However, that’s not what Melissa self hypnotized herself into believing. What she hypnotized herself into believing is that, because she was “humiliated,” she would never again allow that to happen in front of an audience. She put herself into a hypnotic trance by repeating this vow over and over.

But “humiliation” never happened in reality. That’s just the “post hypnotic suggestion” Melissa used to keep herself fearful of giving a speech. Every time she gets up to speak, she replays this experience in her head, puts herself back in that trance and becomes anxious.

Perhaps you don’t remember an incident from your past that triggers your anxiety. It doesn’t matter. The important thing to know is that something happened and you made it mean “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll never get it right” or “This is hard.”

So self-hypnosis is simple. Here are the steps to take to overcome your anxiety:

1. Close your eyes and, as you breath in and out, say the word “relax” to yourself.”

2. Imagine a situation in which you’re anxious like taking a test or giving a speech. See yourself doing that activity. Be descriptive without adding any emotion or interpretation. For example, if you see yourself about to give a speech, simply see yourself standing in front of people. Visualize yourself, the room and the people in the audience.

3. Now say to yourself something like, ” I’m powerful and dynamic.” “Public speaking is easy and effortless.” “I’m joyful when I speak to an audience.” Keep repeating that phrase over and over. Do this for at least 5 minutes.

4. Open your eyes slowly and gently and return to wakefulness.

The key is to repeat that word or phrase over and over. That’s how you self hypnotized yourself into being anxious in the first place. You’ve hypnotized yourself so thoroughly that you no longer even notice that you’re hypnotized. In a sense, you’ve hypnotized yourself through practice, practice and more practice.

So it will take repeated practice of replacing your negative self talk with positive talk. In a sense, you’ll be hypnotizing yourself from one hypnotic trance that produces anxiety to another hypnotic trance that serves you.

But you must keep practicing. In so doing, you’re creating new connections in your brain that will produce new thoughts and feelings.

I’ve been a hypnotherapist since 1997.

My fascination with hypnosis began when I attended a 3-hour lecture on a Sunday evening at a YMCA. There were about 100 people in attendance. The speaker did a relaxation exercise and concluded with the suggestion that “You will be amazed by how well this week goes for you.” I forgot the suggestion until Wednesday of that week when I caught myself marveling at how well the week had gone. Projects that I had been struggling to complete were finished easily. People who had been difficult had suddenly turned cooperative. I was hooked.

I have used hypnotherapy to help people stop smoking, lose weight and relax. As a training and development consultant, I also use it in my training classes to help participants overcome obstacles to effective performance.

Learn more at http://www.selfhypnosissecrets.org

What is the first thing that comes into your mind when you hear the word “hypnosis”? Most definitely you will be apprehensive. In fact, you will immediately end up not reading the rest of the article. That is why as early as now, you should learn to set aside all the negative preconceived notions you have about it.

True-blue hypnosis is not about brainwashing. It is all about opening yourself to better and more positive emotions, so you can combat the negative feelings that have developed some clout in your mind.

There is a variety of ways on how to do hypnosis. For starters you may want to begin with the self-hypnosis, which carries the following benefits:

1. It is you who alters your mind. One of the concerns about hypnosis is you have someone who has more control over your mind. If you are apprehensive that another person may develop some influence on you, you can do self-hypnosis instead. There will be certain tools you can use during the process, but the bottom line is you are the mere determinant on how long you want to go on with the procedure and what kind of experience you want to go through.

2. There are many tools available. Speaking of tools, you can already pick among the many options today. Usually, you can get self-hypnosis materials in the form of mp3s and CDs. You simply have to listen to the instructions and allow yourself to visualize and just go with the flow of what you are hearing.

There are also others that are in the form of videos. You will hear narratives and images, which are normally soothing and calming.

Of the two, the best option will be the CDs since they give you a chance to really relax by closing your eyes. You can do self-hypnosis by sitting or lying on a smooth flat surface, which is ideal.

3. It invites positive affirmations. Self-hypnosis paves the way for subliminal messages. Subliminal messages can be words, sounds, or images that have meanings picked up by the subconscious. Because they do not go through the conscious, they are more easily received or accepted by the brain.

Subliminal messages, in relation to hypnosis, are commonly positive statements called affirmations. You fill your mind with such encouraging and powerful words, and you will notice how your body starts to react with what you are thinking. After all, these messages will slowly become a part of your belief system.

4. It helps you deal with a lot of problems. If you have heard about how hypnosis helps people suffering from illnesses, from depression to cancer, it is because it does. Again, you can go back to the subliminal messages. For some reason, your entire brain gets rewired. Scientifically speaking, your brain will then send signals to different parts of your body to help you act out your positive thoughts. It is not really unusual for people to develop new vitality or energy after self-hypnosis.

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There are the happy moments in relationships when two people decide to become a couple, when they decide that they want to stay together, when they both want to commit to each other. They consider themselves happy, perhaps there is an engagement, they decide to marry or they are newly married, or perhaps they just moved in together and started living as a couple. Life feels great, they are loved and they love, and they start building their new life together. They see it as a serious relationship, the beginning of a happy life.

And this is also very often a time when unexpected relationship issues start happening. This could be an unreasonable jealousy, anger, lack of communication, just mentioning a few. Surprisingly, when partners become closer, they may start fighting, they may become demanding, it may seem that the other person is controlling, not caring enough or over protective, too serious or not having any sense of humor. Sometimes there is just a growing anxiety, feeling trapped, feeling insecure. The intimacy weakens, sex is becoming difficult. Sometimes the person can become so upset and disappointed, that he/she employs other coping mechanisms, like drinking, binge eating, insomnia, even some psychosomatic problems. How can all this happen?

When we are more engaged in the relationship, when it is not a flirt or play anymore, when it becomes more important and serious, and we are committed, and we want it to work, we became also more insecure. The deep love may be very frightening. There could be many reasons. First, there can be hurt and resentment from the previous relationships. If the previous fiancé was cheating with your best mate, it is quite likely that you will become jealous in the next relationship. If your previous husband was violent and controlling, you may be inclined to think men are violent and controlling. It seems impossible to trust, even if we are conscious that these fears and assumption are illogical.

There could also be deeper reasons, almost always unconscious. We repeat patterns from our family of origin, we are entangled in the old beliefs and interpretations from childhood and we project those beliefs onto our partners. We very often seek in a partner a substitute for a mother or father, trying to win the parents love from the partner. Sometimes it is opposite; we see a parent’s faults in our partner. Mother was controlling and critical, so wife is accused of being controlling and we cannot swallow any criticism from her. Father was violent, so we cannot trust any men. Parents were fighting and not happy, so we cannot believe in happy relationships. The family patterns may repeat generation after generation.

The good news is that we do not need to carry the baggage from the previous relationships and from our parents. We can free ourselves from all unhelpful beliefs on a conscious and subconscious level. We can restore the natural flow of love in our families and we can free and empower ourselves. We can create strong lasting relationship, built on love, trust and understanding, and we can grow and evolve together with our partner, letting in the natural happiness and joy in our lives.

There are many approaches aimed at building a loving, lasting relationship. The most common counseling or psychological approach will teach you how to communicate, how to deal with different situations, how to show your feelings. You can learn cognitive and behavioral skills, recognize your thinking patterns, watch and try to control your thoughts, even learn to deal with emotions. Very useful skills, it all helps, even if it may take long a time and a lot of goodwill on both sides.

However, there are better approaches, working on the deepest level, creating real changes, removing all blockages, creating acceptance and understanding, opening the heart and letting the love flow naturally. When there is acceptance and love, there is nothing to hide, there is no reason to control thoughts or deal with emotions, the communication flows naturally, sometimes even without words.

One of the most efficient therapies to work on both conscious and subconscious level is hypnotherapy. It combines counseling and many psychotherapy approaches. The therapy is performed in hypnosis, so the subconscious mind can be explicitly accessed and cleared from unhelpful beliefs and habits. Hypnotherapy allows the most personalized approach. Everybody is different, the web of causes and effects is different for everybody, and in hypnosis the client can access and implement the best solution from the deepest self.

Family Constellations (or Systemic Constellations) is the other powerful phenomenological, alternative or complementary therapy that is gentle, effective and safe. This is an experiential, spiritual and practical approach to building better relationships and reaching your potential. I usually combine the Family Constellation approach with hypnotherapy, together with other techniques, and I’ve found it one of the most effective methods for restoring the natural flow of love. The Family Constellation workshop allows to reach the deepest possible level of our being,
is even more powerful than the hypnosis, the real movement of the souls is created, real turning point in our lives.

Joanna Malinowska is a professional hypnotherapist, counselor, self-hypnosis teacher and Family Constellations facilitator. To learn more about how hypnotherapy can prepare you for an open, loving relationship please visit her website http://www.myhypnotherapy.com.au. To learn about active self-hypnosis techniques for building confidence and self-esteem essential for strong relationships please visit http://www.self-hypnosis.com.au/.

This probably won’t be popular with diehard Law of Attractionists, but nevertheless, it’s true. Let’s compare the two. You use the Law of Attraction because you need something. It may be wealth, freedom from pain, to gain confidence, success in a certain project.

Basically, the Law tells you to; Ask, Believe, Receive. When they suggest you ask, they quite rightly mean ‘ask.’ List down in your journal every aspect of what it is you want. Let’s assume you wish for prosperity. A lot more money, new car, new house and all the trimmings. These must be not only written down, but described in minute detail.

When you’ve finished writing, you read through what you’ve written, imagining everything as you go. Effectively, living your new life. So what are you really doing? Putting yourself into trance state. Into an hypnotic state, embedding your desires into your unconscious.

Now this is fine, but why aren’t you already rich? Has something been holding you back? Lack of self-confidence, perhaps? You could be putting the cart before the horse here. How many really wealthy people do you know who completely lack self-confidence? Not many.

It’s interesting to note that during the last three months of pregnancy, the neonate within the womb experiences more Rapid Eye Movement, (REM), than at any time during the rest of its life. All manner of human instincts are embedded within its mind ready for it to begin its journey into the real world.

Now, bear in mind that hypnosis is a perfectly natural state very similar to night time dreaming, which is the REM state. Indeed, REM is often called the ‘paradoxical sleep,’ because the brainwave patterns are so similar to those during the times when you’re awake. Now occasionally, in the womb, your instincts learned the wrong response.

For instance, instead of having normal self-confidence, you were by-passed in this respect! So if REM programmed the pre-born infant’s instincts, it’s logical that you use hypnosis, which mimics the REM state, to help you programme your instincts to the responses you wish. It isn’t any good simply trying to be more self-confident, or trying to force yourself by will power. It just won’t work.

You must re-educate your unconscious, and that can only be done by hypnosis. So we see how hypnosis, exercised properly, can ‘tap’ the unconscious in such a way that efforts such as willpower are pointless. You automatically become more confident and self-assured without even thinking about it.

Now you have at least one tool you can use to bring you all those things you desire. Both hypnosis and the Law of Attraction, the latter used correctly, are doing just the same thing. Engaging the unconscious.

Mike Bond, comparing the similarities between the Law of Attraction and Hypnosis. Please come along to my Website, where you’ll find so much more of interest, particularly the two free downloads. Just click:
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